How many of you remember the classic book by Judy Blume, Are you there God? Its me, Margaret. The story of a prepubescent girl, Margaret and the trials and tribulations of growing up. Boys, bras and periods. I think there should a book called – Are you there God? Its me Menopause. Mood swings, peezing and hot flashes.
In the original book, Margaret would secretly talk to God about her feelings of growing up, her emotions and religion. But if this was a book written for the perimenopause/menopause women, I think it would be more like – Are you there God, its me Menopause and why they hell am I feeling this way. And is it normal.
It would go like this…
Are you there God? its me Menopause. Today I don’t even know who I am. This morning started with crying over someone not picking up their socks, to the yelling rage of ‘no one does anything around here’, back to crying again over – I can not even remember and I can not stop.
But in this book, God is going to answer and give some advice:
Hi Menopause, its me God. We are all going to have these days of ups and downs as our hormones decrease and try to balance themselves. When you start to feel uneasy, emotional and anxious, just remember to breathe. It is important to take some self care time and know that this is normal. Find some coping mechanisms, make sure you get enough rest (I know, insomnia. But we will discuss that in a later blog post), eat healthy.
Are you there God? its me Menopause. So what is this peezing thing all about.? I turn to sneeze, and I risk peeing my pants. Well that also happen when I cough, laugh or jump. It is rather embarrassing to say the least.
Hi Menopause, its me God. Well that one is a funny one. Decrease of estrogen can weaken your pelvic floor muscles which is the cause of your stress incontinence. My advise on that one is to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles and do your kegels. What are kegels?
One more question..
Are you there God? its me Menopause. Why is it that at the most inconvenient times, I start to feel this overwhelming warmth rise up through my body to the point where I feel like I need to rip my clothes off and turn on the air conditioner full blast!! (even in the winter).
Hi Menopause, its me God. I know that you may feel like you are in the depths of hell and your body is on fire. But it is not! These are hot flashes. Hot flashes are a tricky subject. “But most research suggests that hot flashes occur when decreased estrogen levels cause your body’s thermostat (hypothalamus) to become more sensitive to slight changes in body temperature. When the hypothalamus thinks your body is too warm, it starts a chain of events — a hot flash — to cool you down.” – (mayo clinic) Well isn’t that ironic. A hot flash to cool you down.
Many things work for different women to keep hot flashes to a minimum. A few lifestyle changes to consider:
- Keep cool, especially at night so that hot flashes do not wake you up
- Eat a healthy diet
- Relax. Try some yoga or deep breathing techniques
- Certain herbs can help ( black cohosh, licorice root)
Are you there God? its me Menopause. I have so many more questions for you. ‘Till next time.
Hi Menopause, its me God. I am looking forward to it!
I am not sure about you, but wouldn’t it be great if there was someone out there that had all the answers to when, how, what and why. The truth is, we are all so different on this perimenopause/menopause journey that no two women go through the exact same thing. But what is important is that we talk about it and help each other through. There are so many more resources out there now. Groups to join and chat with women all over the world.
Other Resources to Check out
Oh Hello Perry
For extra reading – Check out one of the first blog posts I every wrote – Hormone Hell